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Of Love & Warcraft: How to Convince a Non-Gamer Girl to Play WoW

January 10, 2011

Lately I’ve noticed that I have been getting a lot of Google hits from people searching the topic “How to meet a girl who plays WoW.” As it just so happens, I am a girl, and I play WoW. And lucky for you, I am willing to help you out.

To do that, I’m going to assume a couple of (pretty major) things:  1) you are searching for ways to meet girls who play WoW because you genuinely want a friend or girlfriend who is interested in the game, and 2) you are not a stalker.

Alright, so. It occurs to me that there are many different types of girls and that many of you are in different sorts of situations. Therefore, I am going to write a series of blog entries that address these different types of people/scenarios. Cool? Cool.

For our inaugural installment, I’m going to start with the scenario I am most familiar with–how to convince a non-gamer girl to play WoW. Alright, so, buckle up boys and girls, heeeeeere we go!

1. Just Talk to Her
Just because a person is a girl who isn’t necessarily into gaming, does not mean that they are snotty and above you and think you are a geek. I promise. So, go talk to her! (If this is an issue, lemme know. I’ll provide conversation starters…) However, for the non-gamer girl, WoW is NOT the first thing you should bring up.

Real Life Example: I honestly did not know Nick played WoW until I had known him (as a friend) for about 6 months. Not that he was hiding it, it just never came up. But I did know that he played video games, that we had similar interests in geeky things (one of our first in-depth conversations was about how we both want to go to Comic-Con), and that we really enjoyed each other’s company. However, I can tell you with a good amount of certainty that if the first thing he said to me had been “Hi, I’m Nick. I play World of Warcraft.” I probably would have been a little freaked out.

1a. Get to Know a Girl Before You Talk to Her about WoW
So here’s my advice– get to know this girl, and after you know her a little, then you drop the WoW-bomb. And if she immediately reacts negatively, don’t be offended, and don’t just stop talking to her after that. Keep pursuing the friendship/eventual relationship and let the WoW issue blow over….but don’t let yourself become discouraged.

2. Slowly Introduce Her to the Game
So, let’s say that you and this girl become friends, or even more than friends. At this point, even if she is just a friend, you guys care about and respect one another. So now is the time that you can bring up WoW again.

Maybe casually ask if she would like to watch you play. Or devise some sort of situation where you are playing when she stops by. Whatever. The first time I saw Nick play, I was actually amazed at how pretty the game was. I’d never known anyone who played, let alone seen the game in person, and was kind of fascinated.

Now, I’m a curious sort, and so I immediately started asking questions–“Why do you play?,” “What are the rules?,” “Wait, you play with other real people?”–that sort of thing. (I was obviously utterly clueless.) So, explain the game to her in non-gaming terms, tell her the story of the game and introduce the main characters and storylines. That sort of thing. It’s hard not to be fascinated by the complexity and scope of it all.

And after I saw Nick play he asked me if I wanted to create a character. And I actually did! (I think it was a blood elf hunter.)

So he showed me how to play for all of 30 minutes, and then I was bored and wanted to watch TV. And so that’s what we did.

3. Be Patient
MONTHS after the little episode I just shared with you all, I started playing.  Nick never pushed the issue or pressured me into playing–I decided to do it on my own. That little italicized part you just read: that’s the key. You can’t force someone to do something they don’t want to do.

Now, I know some of you are probably thinking “But, Bethany, it’s really important to me that the girl I date is someone who can appreciate  WoW and my devotion/love for the game.” I totally understand that.

If you have struck up a relationship with a girl, even if it’s just friendly, there are other ways than patience to convince your lovely lady to play WoW.

4. Get Creative
There are few things that get a girl’s attention  like a little bit of creativity. So, think about what this girl likes a lot.

Let’s say it’s dance–show her the in-game dances the characters do. Maybe she loves to read–tell her about the World of Warcraft books, find reputable reviews of them online, and see if she’d be interested in reading it. Or maybe give her a copy of your book, or check out a copy from the library for her.

Maybe she’s a fashionista–show her some of the different outfits your character wears and y’all can talk about what exactly the difference between ret gear and healing gear is or tell her about the tailoring profession. Perhaps she’s really into video editing or film–show her great machinima or some of the WoW cinematics.

You see what I mean? The possibilities here are endless! And, if nothing else, give her a giftcard for three months worth of playing or one of the adorable plushies for her birthday, and guilt her into playing. You never know–it might work better than you think.

If you can’t think of ideas, feel free to ask me ( or @wowsororitygirl on Twitter) and I’m more than happy to help you brainstorm!

13 Comments leave one →
  1. January 11, 2011 4:41 am

    My introduction to WoW was similar, when I first met Ian my husband he told me he was into gaming and working in IT I assumed he would be computer nerdy and I found that to be cool, as I would describe myself as academically nerdy.

    I’d never heard of WoW before I met Ian and he logged into the game to show me what it was like, he got on a drake and flew round Dalaran and Northrend to show me some of the world and it was pretty, but I wasn’t that interested.

    Flash forward to after the wedding, I got ill and had lots of time on my hands, WoW popped into my head. Until that point though, after Ian showed me Dalaran and I wasn’t interested, he gave up wow. I didn’t realise he’d been in a top raiding guild, because I didn’t understand the game.

    When I decided to investigate WoW again, I asked him to show me more of the game and he re-instated his account and logged into a heroic dungeon run and showed me arathi basin. I was hooked. I remember telling him, if all those months ago he had showed me a heroic run I would have found that much more intresting than flying around.

    I haven’t looked back since, I created my character, started blogging, and having lots of fun. I’d never played a video game and hadn’t heard of WoW, all my time was spent Irish Dancing…so it can be done! Just have to go about it the right way, if I’d have thought for a second that WoW was more important to Ian than me, I’m not sure how long we would have lasted.

    A couple of years ago would I have thought I would ever class myself as a gamer? No. Now though? yes, most definitely.

  2. January 11, 2011 10:54 am

    I love this!!
    My boyfriend is actually my guild leader, so if you ever want an opinion article on that, I’d be so willing to help! And I am totally going to keep reading these, because I’m trying to convince my other friends to play, too!! Major props, I love it!

  3. January 11, 2011 1:08 pm

    I may actually try this when I decide to date again. MAYBE. But as of now I’ll stick to being single and maybe find someone…but great incite.

  4. January 11, 2011 1:16 pm

    Okay, in what part you gonna come up with adresses of girls then?

    Lol, no j/k. xD
    Nice idea, I’m reading ’em!

  5. January 11, 2011 3:06 pm

    Neat idea for a series!

    Got a few stories of mine own to add on WoW and relationships =)

    My college roommate, she started playing right before we moved in together and her whole point was so she would have something in common with this guy she really liked! She grew up playing console games, but never really played an MMO like WoW before. She had met this guy at a party and kept in touch with him afterwards and had a huge crush on him. She found out he played WoW and decided to get a copy and give it a try, making a toon on his server, etc.

    Around the same time, my now-ex started playing as a friend gave him the free 10-day trial. I was skeptical at first – my roommate had told me she spent hours running around killing bunnies to “up” her “skinning profession” and that sounded a bit lame… my ex brought his computer up with him one weekend when he was visiting, hooked it up and showed me the game, letting me make a character on his account as he walked me through the basic gameplay and such. It was alright I guess… I thought it was neat how we could play along with friends at all different schools, hours away. I didn’t want to get too into it though until after the semester was over as I had a bunch of stuff I needed to focus on at the time, but once I was done with finals my ex gave me his 10-day trial and I recreated my character and installed the game on my own computer. I got sucked in. Although I guess it helped I had a roommate who was playing at the same time too so we had something new and fun and exciting to talk about it, comparing our adventures of questing in Azeroth! lol…

    I got hubby into playing that summer, as he knew me and now-ex and my roommate were all playing and was interested into what was so appealing about it. He bought the game, rolled a character on our server and began spending more and more time hanging out with us online (as he lived well over an hour away) – he admitted later, like my roommate with her crush, he just wanted something more in common that he could participate in with me and since WoW was online and he didn’t live nearby, that was one way! Funny thing was, soon after he started playing, several of his younger brothers started playing too! All thanks to me! It was kinda amusing!

  6. January 11, 2011 3:17 pm

    Should add – I know people who found their spouses/long-term relationships in game too!

    My college roommate met her fiance in her guild back when she was dating my ex’s roommate. They hit it off as friends and after her break-up he was there for her as someone to talk to… only she lived in N. Illinois, he lived in Dallas. They made a few weekend trips back and forth to get to know each other though and eventually started dating long-distance before she moved down there to be with him and she really thinks it’s one of the best decisions she’s ever made!

    A former friend of mine (long story) also met his long-term girlfriend ingame, as they were part of the same raid group during Vanilla and just hit it off. He started playing WoW as his escape after a rough break-up and at the time it was what he needed. They were pretty cute together, but we fell out of touch so who knows how they’re doing.

    And then the downside… an ingame friend of mine met his ex-wife ingame as they had been questing/leveling together with the same group of people. They hit it off ingame, she decided she liked him better than her actual boyfriend and broke up with him to date my ingame friend. He lived in Alabama while she lived in Florida so eventually he picked up and moved to be with her, although they got engaged when they really shouldn’t have – she didn’t have the heart to tell him no and got too blindsided by all the glitz of wedding planning… about 3 months after the wedding she told him she didn’t want to be with him anymore (much to the disgust of her family who had just paid for the wedding). He was devastated and heartbroken and eventually picked up and moved back to his homestate… it was pretty sad!

    And then you got my husband’s friend… we met him ingame and he only lives about an hour away from us so we get together and hang out from time to time (he was in our wedding too). Hubby and him were both playing hunters as their mains at the time so they hit off as friends that way… it’s amusing though as his friend seems to have one WoW-relationship after another with the women on our server! We joke about him being a WoW-whore, although I felt bad about one of his relationships as she was separated from her husband and had an infant and hubby and I both feel like she was just using our friend as he would give her money and other stuff, thinking eventually she’d move here and be with him (but that never happened).

  7. January 11, 2011 6:26 pm

    WOW is the best game i ever play but meet girls dont know for sure if you can 😛

  8. February 9, 2011 9:37 pm

    Spot on with this write-up, I actually suppose this website wants much more consideration. I’ll most likely be again to read far more, thanks for that info.

  9. November 13, 2011 3:15 pm

    Any tips on Love and StarCraft instead? 🙂 Good post girl!

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  11. August 26, 2012 4:44 am

    Very good info. Lucky me I found your blog by chance (stumbleupon).

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